You are going to fail, if you want it or not. It is better to make yourself ready or understand why, then be surprised why it happened. Last week I’ve shared with you few ideas on how you can manage conversations so you can get better results, you will enjoy them and build proper and real report. You can be mastering this topic through learning and discovering new situation so let me introduce few more tips which can help you with it.
Have you ever had a deep conversation about serious topics and felt like the time has flown by? How many times a day this happens to you? Not many, I know. Most of us have the same issue. We would like our chats be like that all the time but, this is not always possible.
During my years in sales and business development, I have been working with clients face to face, over the phone and online. I’ve realized that there is nothing more fulfilling than good questions. That’s why most journalists prepare their topics in advance to make the conversation interesting for other person, not just themselves. What I’ve learned is to let people talk, read between lines and try to understand what they really mean. If someone share with you one information, you can always ask a question, this will show your interest in it. Also, remember that all human beings’ loves talking about themselves – yes, you, me and over 7.5 billion people on earth. With each question you can learn and discoversomething new, so why not try this technique?
Be here and now! Most of you known that, some of you read my long article about it (you can find it here: add link). The idea is similar to meditation – you need to be mindful and present it. The same is with conversation, it can only be effective if you are listening, staying focus and taking all in. This is a fundamental skill if you want to be a good communicator.
Isn’t it annoying when you talk to someone and their attention is clearly on their computer or phone? Some of you will take it as a rude behavior, right? But you could see this as any other distraction, like eating or even writing. Your attention will not cover all everything, we are designed to do just one thing at the time. So don’t try to listen, be present in a conversation and answer this really long email at the same time. If you focus just on one task, you will have it done much quicker. Then you can move on to the next task. Ask yourself a question –If you open few doors and trying to walk through them at the same time, what would happen?
Responsibility is the word which most of you won’t consider as a good tip to improve your conversation. However, you need to remember that what you say, you cannot recall and you need to take full responsibility for it. So it is worth it to think before saying something and build it as a good habit.
I know you probably think that it is so easy and I even shouldn’t mention it. But, do you remember last time when you said something in emotions? How did you felt afterwards? All what you say is a reflection on how you feel about yourself.
You would think that good conversation skills should be in our gens, but it’s not. Most of us haven’t been taught how to communicate properly. Even if you feel you know a lot, there is always room for improvement.
If you have your top tip, please share it below in comment and let others know, maybe it will be the crucial key in their way to improvement.